Running the Rat Race and letting your life pass by…

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I have read an article on “Big Think” last week titled “We’re all too Busy… Missing amazing opportunities” which came back to my mind when I read the post by my friend Jennifer Ebermann on “Enjoying the Present moment – the Story of the snail” that she posted yesterday.

It comes back to what I had been writing a few days ago about one of my day at work, doing things which are not fulfilling and especially doing things automatically without thinking about it. We just let our life pass by…

I have woken up and this is why I have decided to look for alternative ways to earn a living. I want fulfillment in my life and I want to be able to choose when and where I am going to work.

So here are a few excerpts from the Big Think’s article but you should read the whole thing as it is full of good advices:

Move from Being Busy In the Present to Being Strategic About the Future

As change accelerates and the pressure to keep up intensifies, the natural tendency is to try to speed up with it—to be busier. But rather than try to speed up even more, you need to slow down, stop, and think. Put aside all your current problems for a moment. Make the decision to devote a little time, on a regular basis, to looking at the Hard Trends and predictable opportunities that will happen in the near future.

Juggle Your Time Wisely

You’re juggling a lot of balls these days. You have your work ball, spouse ball, family ball, community ball, and many others. Fortunately, the work ball is made of rubber so if you drop it, it will bounce back. Many of the other balls are made of various thicknesses of glass. However, you can’t tell how thick the glass is until you drop it and see if it shatters. Therefore, you need to be careful.

So take a look at all the things you’re juggling. There are some things that are precious that you never want to drop. Identify those. Many people do drop those balls and that’s why there are divorces, kids you can’t relate to, and all kinds of family problems. So which balls do you never want to drop?

A good idea is to make a list of the balls you’re juggling and order them in terms of relevancy, from most relevant to least. Include everything, such as publications you read, clubs or groups you belong to, specific tasks you do at work and at home, etc. Which are the most relevant? Maybe there are things you read that are really wasting your time. Perhaps you commit time to groups that are no longer meaningful or profitable for you. Maybe you do tasks that someone else can and should do.

After you do this, will you still be busy? Yes, but it’ll be the right kind of busy. When you can be both anticipatory and strategic in all areas of your life, you can be busy based on opportunities, not based on the latest crisis you need to address. Only then will the busy pace of life feel worth it, and your personal and professional life will prosper.

I think it is so important to be able to live the present, life is too short and I really do not want to have any regrets when I’ll be too old to do much about it.

So my advice would be, live your life to the full and enjoy each moment given to you on this earth.

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Believing in myself… Sometimes it is a raging battle, who is going to win ? The little monkey on my shoulder or my inner strength?

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On Thursday night I went for a girlie’s night out at a locale Auberge and it was lovely to see my friends. Especially since we do not see each other very often. And of course, when you haven’t seen each other for a while, what do you talk about? well, on what you have been up to these past few months…

The discussion was flowing, we were enjoying a glass of wine and our meal when the discussion turned to what I had been up to. So I explained that I was looking at ways to make money on line and to, hopefully, resign from my job by the end of the year and to start a new life with financial independence. I told them I had started writing a blog and that I was really enjoying it and actually finding that it was helping me a lot on staying focused and motivated in what I was doing. I also told them of my ultimate goal to create a foundation or a charity  when I would have enough money to make a difference.

They listened to what I was saying but I could already see all the objections and remarks which were going to follow…

They thought I was completely unrealistic, that even being self-employed would give me more headaches than being employed, that I would never make enough money to make a living out of it and that I should work for a charity instead of creating one (but I’ve done that, haven’t I, I worked for 10 years with the International Committee of the Red Cross). They didn’t get the concept of a digital lifestyle, the opportunity offered by being in a good affiliate program with high ticket commissions as well as residual commissions.

I suddenly felt very alone…

My little monkey was very happy and very much alive, whispering in my ear, “they are right you know, you’ll never make it, you’re not good enough to succeed in this market, you’ll never be consistent, you’ll stop before you can do anything, you’ll never make any money, who would want to be interested in what you promote?” etc. etc. You get the picture (see my previous blog on my audience and the XFactor).

I was a bit down after that evening, and I don’t blame my friends at all, they cannot have the “vision” as they do not have this burning gut desire to succeed in something different. They are content with their life, one is a happy mother, they have successful careers and loving partners. I know that all their advices were given because they care about me and they don’t want to see me hurt once more. It is so difficult  to explain to people outside of the digital world how it could work and how someone can succeed in it. They just do not understand, and usually, things people do not understand frighten them.

That night just made me realise how important it is to keep faith in one-self. If I was not so motivated at being successful online I would probably let all these self-doubts eating me up and I would find a very quick excuse not to pursue what I am doing now. But deep down, in my inner-self, I know I CAN DO IT. And actually, writing this blog is helping me so much in keeping my self-confidence, the fact that 100 and so people like what I am writing means that I must be doing something right :-).

Well Folks, another insight on my life lol. Let me know if you are also struggling with keeping faith in yourself and in what you are doing. Sharing one’s doubts definitely helps reduce them.